Do Nothing When in Doubt during Divorce Negotiations
Divorce will bring into focus various issues, which you had hardly bothered about previously. Your spouse might have looked after certain aspects of the household during your marriage and you had no interest in handling those things. However, many things that you had not considered important may now become crucial and will need your full attention, if you want a favorable divorce outcome for yourself.
Hold Fast for Now
During divorce negotiations, various things will come up that will test your knowledge about those things. It is not possible for anybody to be an expert on everything, and therefore you should not commit to anything when you are ignorant or have partial knowledge about the matter. Your motto should be “when in doubt do nothing”, which means you neither accept nor deny whatever is being asked of you. The right thing to do in such a situation would be to consult an expert on that matter.
Protecting Your Interests
The other side may feel you believe you are a victim here and perhaps may try to take advantage of you having that feeling. If you think he feels sorry for you and is going to let up or this is just his attorney speaking you may be right but you cannot assume this is the case. You should assume the worse but hope for the best. You cannot take this situation lightly and you need to have an attorney out there willing to defend your rights just like the other side has a nail biting attorney doing that for them. Do not worry, these types of lawyers exist, as you are beginning to realize, and they will be happy to protect and defend your interests.
They do not just exist in TV shows but in reality too but you need to make the phone call though.
Listening to the Right People
For instance, during the divorce various issues about finances and division of the property will be discussed. It is important to have consultation with a financial professional and find out where you stand with respect to your own finances during the divorce. If you are confronted with making any decisions and you have a doubt, first consult the professional and then take the appropriate decision after the initial discussions.
Do not Relinquish anything as of Now
You might not want to appear ignorant about certain things in front of your spouse, but it is more important that you do not commit to anything when you are in doubt. Even a small thing you might agree upon without knowing the full implications can bring about a major change in the final divorce outcome. Hence, be very careful and do not act on partial knowledge. Always trust the experts on the matter and take their advice before taking any step.
Negotiating During a Divorce
Most divorces are emotionally draining and you could be bitter and angry. However, during a divorce many things can go wrong if you are not vigilant and enable your emotions to control your judgment. Many things can be settled amicably and to your advantage if you are careful during the negotiating process. Instead of fighting in a court over important things such as payment of alimony, division of property, custody of children, visitation rights and so on, you can address all these issues and find a favorable settlement through skillful negotiations.
Listen & Understand
One of the most important tactics in carrying out skillful negotiations is to listen carefully to what the other side is saying. By listening, you will come to know what your spouse actually wants and things that are important to him. All this is important information, since you will be in a much stronger position to bargain and negotiate a better outcome for yourself.
Listen & Learn
Sometimes the other side is not sure that you are listening or understanding what they are saying and will try to use this against you. Many times they assume you do not fully comprehend the issues despite you having a marvelous attorney working on your behalf. There are some divorces where the former husband believes that is wife cannot make these decisions on her own and is overwhelmed during a process like this. Perhaps he is involved in intense negotiations once a week because of his profession which gives him an advantage. Well, with your listening skills and your outstanding attorney, you can turn the tables on this matter and just surprise him.
Take a Step Back
During negotiations, things can flare up and your spouse might start accusing you of various things. The natural reaction would be to accuse him back and start a fight; however, this would be counterproductive and does not achieve anything. The best thing to do in such a situation would be to keep your cool and make him come back to negotiating rather than fighting. If things begin to enter the ugly domain, and you are pulled into a fight, it would be better to take a break and come back the next day. Start the negotiations the next day as if nothing has happened and try to avoid another verbal shouting match.
People You Trust
However, what you listen and learn during negotiations should be shared and discussed with your “board of advisors”. This board should comprise of people whom you trust and who will be thinking in your favor. Your divorce attorney will be the top member of this “board”, but it could also include friends, siblings, and parents.
Look at Divorce as the Closing of a Chapter and another Opening
Divorce can bring about a strong feeling of hurt, and in most cases, spouses consider themselves victims. Your relationship with your spouse might have deteriorated and ended long ago but when you are confronted with putting a formal end to the relationship by divorcing all the hurt and resentment can come up again. This is the time you are most likely going to feel you are the victim in the marriage, and this might even be true. However, such a feeling does not achieve anything, and in fact, it can stop you from taking the right decisions about your future life.
Missing Important Aspects in Life
Look upon divorce as a chapter in your life that is closing. When one chapter ends, another chapter has to begin, as life has to go on. If you sit with hurt, and a closed chapter, your life will not move on and you will be miserable. Additionally when you are hurting, you cannot focus on issues that are important in the divorce and take the required steps. Taking yourself to be the victim, you will be either depressed or angry. Neither of these emotions will allow you to think clearly, and you are likely to make mistakes during the divorce negotiations or proceeding, which will not be favorable to you in the outcome of your divorce case and settlement.
Sucking it Up
You cannot afford to pout indefinitely, since you need to get on with your life. If you have children, they will need you to act as a parent, especially during a divorce. Emotional hurt will not simply go away, and you need to make a conscious choice, to stop feeling like a victim and get on with your life. It is a conscious decision that needs to be made; however, difficult it may be.
Talk to Your Employer about Your Rights
Talk to Your Employer about Your Rights
It pays to know your rights at the workplace, since you have the right to claim compensation for injuries sustained while working for your employer. Your employer will usually be covered by Workers Compensation insurance, which will actually pay the damages or compensation. However, unless you know your rights you may not even know that such a claim can be made. The employer is supposed to display information about the workers compensation insurance benefits but you also can discuss about your rights with your employer.
Knowing Your Rights
If you were injured at the workplace, the best way to resolve any issues would be to frankly talk with your employer and discuss the matters about your case. Most employers want to avoid legal tangles and want to abide by the law. They want to keep the relationship harmonious and resolve this matter amicably. These should be your goals too. However, you need to know what rights you have in the matter before presenting your problems. When you know your rights clearly, you will have the confidence to present your case and argue the various points.
The Necessary Communication
Since the employer has taken insurance to cover the cost of your injuries, he or she might not try to mislead you about your rights about claiming compensation. In fact, when your employer is concealing information about workers compensation benefits he or she can cross into legal trouble. Secondly, there is no reason for the employer to hide anything about your rights in this matter, since the procedure of making a claim is quite straightforward and every employee has to be informed about this procedure.
Your Claim does not affect Worker’s Salaries
If your employer makes it difficult for you to complete the necessary paper work, tries to insinuate that making a claim can takes months and in some cases over a year for anything to come out it, says that if you make a claim the insurance company may raise their rates which will mean the business will have to reduce the wages for everyone, or anything such as this this should be a major concern to you. This means they are not cooperating. This also means they are not professional.
If they attempt to talk you away from making a claim what happens the next time you are hurt? Will they be more supportive then? What happens if the injury is far worse next time? This cannot be their normal business practice.
Covering Your Bases
You are also allowed to have legal representation when you talk to the employer. If you feel the employer is not going to be cooperative or it is not clear whether your injuries are work related even though they are, then hiring a lawyer would be a wise move.
Seek Immediate Medical Attention and Tell the Doctor the Injury was Work Related
Seek Immediate Medical Attention and Tell the Doctor the Injury was Work Related
The employer has certain duties and responsibilities towards their employees, especially regarding workplace safety and in providing compensation when anyone is injured at the workplace. Similarly, the employee also has certain responsibilities that need to be fulfilled if the employee wants to obtain compensation for injuries suffered at the workplace.
Administered by a Doctor
In the event of an injury, the first thing the employee should do is report the injury to the supervisor or employer, and seek medical attention and treatment. The injury might not seem serious initially and there might be less pain, but it is important for the employee to have the injury diagnosed by a medical professional immediately. The full extent and implications of the injury can only be known after the doctor has checked the injured part and proper medical tests have been conducted.
This will make it official. It does not matter how much medical knowledge your friend down the street has if he is not a nurse or a doctor his testimony will mean very little when it counts. You will not have that many excuses for keeping a legitimate injury from a doctor when the hearing takes place or when the insurance company begins to ask you why your claim is so high for an injury that was apparently not worth being reported by you. If the injury was that severe it probably would have been noticed by someone else as well and they would have reported it, motivated you to report, escorted you to the doctor, or pointed you in the right direction.
This person would even support you in the mediation or when the insurance company gives them a call. They have every reason to be honest and to express what they saw that day in regards to your injury and how it took place.
It was Work Related
The employee also has the right to consult a medical practitioner other than the company doctor. However, it is important for the employee to inform the doctor that the injury was work related. Additionally, the employee should also tell the doctor everything about the job and working conditions. The employee should make sure the following points are covered:
Since when the employee has been working at such a job
The type of bending, twisting, and lifting that is done by the employee during the day
The maximum weight that the employee has to lift
What type of body movements causes pain now
Which tasks have now become very difficult to do
Two Critical Points
Employees have the right to claim compensation for their work related injuries. Employers usually have to take Workers Compensation Insurance, and there is a strict procedure for claiming benefits. Two important points that should not be ignored are acquiring immediate medical treatment for the injury and telling the doctor how the injury is work related.
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